The Expectation of Giving 110% at 80%

All of us can agree that life can be tough. It is a rollercoaster of emotions, events, and a diary of inconveniences that never ends. The expectation that we should always be better is a lot of pressure. That doesn’t mean that we can’t get through it, but it may mean that we can’t always give 110%.

We’re constantly pressured by expectation and social media to “be the best version of ourselves” that we can be. You see all these people out there crushing their goals and creating new ones to reach every single day. Of course, you’re going to feel inadequate. That’s the side of effect of everyone “killing the game” while you’re sitting in your living room binge watching your favorite TV series until the TV asked if you’re still watching. That’s the worst part of it all, though, the comparison. Comparison is the killer of all progress. You need to live up to your own personal expectations and goals, not someone else’s. This is your race. Everyone is running a different one. 

Now, your expectation of yourself versus your parents or your boss or your colleagues, friends, or significant other can be very different. That’s when you must learn that you may not be able to live up to every single expectation – and that’s okay. At the point where you have lost sight of the task at hand, that’s when you need to take a step back and reevaluate. Just know that it is okay to say “no.”

So, the 110%? Yes, it’s awesome to go above and beyond but, occasionally, we’re only operating at 80% and that needs to be enough. Our brains need a break, our bodies need a break and our spirits need a break. 

You know how we were talking about self-care and how important that is to your motivation and your drive? That’s the money right there. That is where you will grow – in yourself. Why is it that we put such an emphasis on doing this or doing that or getting this done or making this happen when we can’t even get a full night of sleep or remember to take our makeup off at the end of the day? Sure, success is great, but how fulfilling will it be in the moment when you’re always looking for the next great thing to do. It’s not. Girl, give yourself credit where credit is due. You may feel like you’re failing or making no progress when this is the furthest you’ve gotten through your goals EVER. 

Let us tell you something, too. It is okay to give yourself a pat on the back – let us say it one more time but louder for the ladies in the back…IT IS OKAY TO BE PROUD AND CONGRATULATE YOURSELF FOR YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS. Unfortunately, we’ve been given the narrative that enough is never enough. Honey, it is enough. It is awesome when you even exceed your expectations, but what you’re doing is more than enough, YOU are enough. Rock that smile, Femi girl. You are doing great.